“How to Overcome Porn”

Porn is no joke.  But it can be overcome.  It can seem overwhelming because there are so many things usually involved in giving up porn.  It’s not just porn that is the problem but also masturbation, lust for women in general, crushes at work or school, social anxieties and the list goes on.  Giving up porn is much more than just giving up looking at sex online.

So, rather than just take the whole thing all at once, it can be helpful to break it down into pieces so that it becomes a little more manageable.  I would say step one should be to give up masturbation.

Why masturbation first?  Well, it seems to be the most tangible.  It is also the end product of porn–often the motivating factor.  It is the primary physical stimulus.  So, give up masturbation and porn seems less desirable.  Try it for a while and you’ll see what I mean.  Then, it becomes much easier to give up the others (as I will discuss in future posts).

So, how do you give up masturbation?  It’s not really too hard actually.  But, you need to make a firm decision.  You need to decide that you are not going to self-stimulate any more–no matter what!  Then, carry it through.  It is easy to track your success.  You either did or you didn’t.  Start right now.  Make the decision and stop.

Masturbation is unnatural and rather self-serving (see my post called, “Is Masturbation Natural?”).  It promotes porn addiction and does nothing to serve you well.  You might wonder if it is necessary to release the sexual tension you have building up in you.  But, it isn’t.  Your body has a natural response to take care of that.  It’s called a “wet dream”.  If you stop masturbating and are not involved in sexual intercourse with another you will have wet dreams occasionally.  You don’t need to take care of that yourself.

So, work first on quitting the masturbation and you will find it much easier to work on the other things.  You will also start to find that viewing porn tends to make you want to masturbate.  But, since you have now stopped masturbating, the porn becomes a hindrance and sexual frustration to you.  It becomes an enemy to your efforts to stop masturbating.  You start to actually not want porn in your life any more because of the pain it causes you.  Once you try this you’ll see what I mean.

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3 Responses to “How to Overcome Porn”

  1. MyJourney says:

    Personally, I don’t think masturbation is wrong or unnatural. You do, and that’s totally cool. I respect your position and would never challenge you on it.

    Whatever is right for you and your recovery is the right thing.

    • There are plenty of differing views on this of course. It seems hard to imagine viewing porn without masturbation and vice versa. It seems that the porn is the fuel and the masturbation is the ignition. Take away the fuel and you have no reason for the spark. Take away the spark and you have no reason for the fuel. I think sex is meant to be shared between two individuals. But, if someone wants to give up porn and still masturbate without it–more power to them!

      • MyJourney says:

        My wife and I think it’s all about motivation. If I use porn, there’s no doubt what my motivation is, straight up lust. If I think about my wife, in a non-objectifying manner, we think it’s an ok thing to do.

        It can cause confusion too. Anytime I’ve done this, I’ve had to be very careful to not mix unhealthy thoughts with thinking of the love we have shared.

        I will say I do this very rarely; once every 6 weeks or so.

        That might sound kind of dumb, but it makes sense to us.

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