I came across a good article from Mayra Bitsko a few weeks back. It offers 5 simple ways to show your wife you love her. I’ve been telling you how amazing my wife has been at showing me love. But, I wanted to reverse it and share these ideas on how we can give back!
If your wife points out to something she likes, but, unfortunately, cannot afford it at the time, take a mental picture of the item. On a day you are alone, buy it for her. This will show your wife you were listening to her and that you care. Another idea to consider is writing a sentimental note and placing it in her purse.
(My wife has been writing all these random little notes for me lately and including a fun little gift. It doesn’t have to be expensive! Women who give gifts also love receiving them. The other day, I grabbed some flowers from a street vendor for $5. She loved them. Flowers are obvious… but let’s try to get really creative and notice those little things she would love. The notes are a really good idea too. Tell her in each note what you love about her!)
If you see your wife in distress, without telling her, start working on her to-do list. Help the children with their homework and school projects or do the food shopping on a day she’s working late. Your wife may develop stress from work. Take out time to talk to her about why her job is stressing her. Sometimes talking things out relaxes a person.
(As you probably know women love to talk! Men love to try to solve problems. One way we can show love is to just listen sometimes without trying to solve everything. Women need a shoulder to cry on. They just need to talk out their feelings. Are you being the guy she can do that with? If not, she might find someone else at work or something. Also, being helpful is another way to give free gifts. I absolutely hate grocery shopping, but I enjoy finding things I can do to lighten my wife’s load.)
Walk down memory lane.Talk about a memorable moment you both shared. Maybe the memory was something that happened at your wedding, at a friend’s party or a simple walk in the park. The memories will bring back magical feelings.
(Hmmm… haven’t done this for awhile. Have you? This could be fun to try tonight or this weekend.)
When your wife needs someone to talk to, turn off the television, the computer and put your cell phone aside. A slight sign of distraction will send off the wrong signal to her. She will think you do not care. Giving your wife undivided attention only shows her you are interested in what she has to say.
(Yes, I’ve found this to be important. It is also important if you have children. They need to know that you care enough about them to give them all your undivided attention.)
If you find yourself troubled or confused over something, ask your wife for advice. Let her know her opinion matters.
(I love running things past my wife. She usually has interesting ideas and can be helpful. Plus, just having her support when I make a decision makes me feel more confident about that decision.)
We need to realize just how important it is to be conscientiously showing our wives love. It’s not only essential to making our wives happy, but it’s also essential to making us happy in our marriage. Love is a verb. If we’re not pursuing our wives, there is a strong chance that we will be pursuing something destructive to our marriage like porn or affairs. Loving our wives is the way to keeping our wives! And our own faithfulness!